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Im sat here at 2am crying sat in the spare room, whilst my husband trys to settle J. J has spent the last hour screaming and thrashing around. He wants cuddles but then claws and hits you. Im so unbelievable fed up of this reflux. I hate seeing J in pain and not being able to do anything.
Its now 2.30 we now have tv on in the bedroom to distract J . It is slowly sort of working
Its now 3.20 J has finally gone to sleep. Hopefully he will at least give me a hour . Im not even going to attempt to put him in his cot
This is my first time being tagged by another blogger. I think the whole idea is quiet fun and a good way to get to know each other better. You get to find out more about our life behind the scenes. Thanks to Donna at Redhead Babyled for the tag!
1. Are you a Stay at Home Mum, or a Working Mum?
Before J was born I worked full time in a hairdressers as a stylist. In all honesty i have never wanted not to work , I would get far to bored. In fact myself and my husband often joked that if we could afford it he would be a SAHD. When J was born I took several months off on maternity leave returning to work part time when J was 8 months.
2. Would you have it any other way?
I like to think I have a nice mixture at the moment . When i am having a bad day with J I know I will get a break at work . This also goes both ways though as I miss him so much when I’m away from him. That makes the several night waking’s much more bearable. I take my hat off to all stay at home parents, it is such a hard job raising a child.
3. Do you co-sleep?
Yes – Sleep is non-existent as it is, so anything that helps I’m all for it. We have never been anti co-sleeping so when we realised that it was the only option we went along with it. I believe when done safely it is the most natural way. J normally starts the night in his own cot bed and then when he wakes in the night i bring him into our bed. When he was little we set up the cot bed as a sidecar cot in our room.
4. What is your one must-have item for your baby?
Slings!!! although once you start ill be impressed if you stick to one. I currently own 3. A Wallabi Wraptai, Maya ring sling and a Diddymos Jakob size 5 wrap.
5. How many kids do you plan on having?
I always wanted 2 and my husband wanted 3 , however that has changed since J has arrived. I love J to pieces but the worry of ending up with Post Natal Depression again is too much. I feel that i have missed out on so many happy times with J growing up . The first few months are such a blur and I cannot go through that again . It would not be good for my mental health, or my marriage. I am so lucky to have such a supportive husband and family but I cannot see myself going through all of this again or at least in the next 10 years. If it was just the PND it wouldn’t be so bad, but that thrown in with sleepless nights, allergies and reflux has worn me down. My husband agrees and he has also changed his mind about having another child. Hey in 10 years we might go through it all again but i honestly cannot see that happening at the moment.
6. Date night? How many nights per month?
At the minute it isn’t that often as we are busy renovating our new house to move into. However once we have moved J will be having a sleepover at grandmas once a week. We will definitely have a date night at least twice a month, be it a film night or going out for a meal. I do think it is important to make sure you spend time together as a couple and remember you are not just mum and dad.
7. Your child’s favourite show?
Mr Tumble! I don’t know what it is about Justin but this is the only programme that makes J stop running around for more than 2 minutes. I love the fact that he is learning sign language as well. I always wanted to take him to baby sign but again this is another thing i didn’t manage to do because of the PND.
8. Name one thing you bought before you had your baby and never ended up using?
I don’t think there is anything we never used. We were quiet frugal when shopping for baby things , so we only bought things we knew we would need. Even then we mainly bought second-hand, used vouchers or when things were on offer.
9. Your child’s favourite food?
Food is a bit hit and miss in this house depending on if the reflux is under control or not. I don’t think J has a favourite although he is partial to a spaghetti Bolognese. His dad took him out this week and he loved poppadum’s apparently. That was mainly because he could play and crunch them up first. As long as he eats something I’m not too fussed.
10. How many cars does your family have?
2 – Husband had a Land rover discovery up un-till recently. Now we are the owner of a Volvo estate family car . I have a Toyota Yaris that I proudly bought after saving up my wages when I was about 19. I find it too small as the main family car now and also the fact it is only 3 doors is a nightmare. Clearly when I was 19 I was not thinking about the logistics of a baby. This is the main reason we ended up with the Volvo as we needed something more practical. The plan is that husband uses the Yaris to drive on the motorway to work, as its more economical being a diesel.
11. Weight gain before pregnancy, during and after and now?
Before I had J I was a tiny 7st 5lb, i am only 5’1 though. I lost a lot of weight before the wedding by eating healthy and walking a lot more. Weigh loss wasn’t the aim but it just happened. I put 4 stone on in pregnancy!!! I was in the, I’m pregnant I can eat what I want camp. This was mainly chocolate as my friend kept giving me it every time I saw him. Something about keeping a pregnant woman happy. When I weighed myself after J was born I weighed 10st 5lb. I started to hover around the 10st mark, I wanted to loose a bit of weight so that i could get my wedding rings back on. I am currently 9st 8lb but really struggling to loose anymore .
12. Dream holiday with your kids?
Caravanning or camping somewhere in the UK . Ideally Cornwall. I love being by the coast and having a relaxing walk. I do hope to go abroad when J is older but i have no idea when as my husband has never had a passport!.
13. Dream holiday without your kids?
I don’t think i could go on holiday without J. Maybe a weekend spa break but that’s it really.
14. How has your life changed since your baby has been born?
I’ve not had a decent nights sleep in a year !!. Obviously suffering from PND has changed my life massively. imp glad i got over the anxiety attacks that i was having early on, as that was horrible. We have also bought a house since J was born and are still currently renovating it . This means that we have moved in with my parents whilst we do it. Unfortunately because of this my husband is spending a lot of time at the house. I’m looking forward to having more time together as a family when it is finished. We also unfortunately had to rehome our dog as he kept trying to herd J , he was a border collie. This is another massive down point in my life that i will blog about when i feel that i can.
However it is so worth dealing with all of this because J is my world and every time he laughs or smiles he makes my heart melt. I love the fact that I have someone that relies on me and I care look after and cherish him.
15. Finish the sentence: ‘It makes my heart melt to see …
16. Where do you shop for your kids?
I am a lover of bargains , so i mainly buy second hand off Facebook selling pages. I managed to get a massive job lot of toys for £15. We are lucky to have been gifted a lot of clothes for J as well. I think i only had to start buying stuff when he was around 8 months old. The shops that i do like are NEXT, Sainsbury’s and Asda for clothes. ToysRus is also a favourite for bits and bobs such as Sophie
17. Favourite makeup and skincare products?
I’m not really one for makeup and skincare. I generally use Dream Matte Mouse foundation. I do like Estee Lauder double wear though, I used this for my wedding.
18. Huggies or Pampers?
Neither i love Aldi nappies and for the price its even better. I did want to use cloth nappies but even though i have a massive stash i haven’t got around to using them as they are in storage.
19. Have you always wanted kids?
Yes I always wanted to grow up get married and have children. Your typical 2.4 average family.
20. Best part about being a mum?
Snuggling with J . I love the rare occasion J will happily relax in our bed in the morning whilst we have a cup of coffee. I cannot wait till he is older and we can have film nights in bed snuggling.
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After contacting Pure Chimp about my eczema they sent a pot of Super Cream out free for my review.
When it first arrived i was impressed by the size of the pot. I was expecting it to be smaller for some reason. The retail price for 60ml is normally £12 but currently on sale herefor £8. The pot its self seems quiet chunky and sturdy , so if your clumsy like me I don’t think it would break easily. It is made out of a black plastic. The design of the label is black and white, which is simple and to the point. I like this as I have found that some company’s over compensate the packaging to make up for the actual product. The packaging doesn’t detract from the fact that the ingredients are natural. The label states quiet clearly that the products are not tested on animals and are 100% natural and Vegan friendly.
The use by date is on the base of the cream. The cream has a good shelf life as my cream had a use by date of 07/2015
The ingredients of the cream are
In all fairness it isn’t going to win an award for the nicest smelling cream of the year. However if it improves my eczema then I can let the smell issue slide. I suppose this is another thing that comes from the fact of having no nasty chemicals in it to change the fragrance.
I was again surprised by the texture of the cream as it’s runnier than the type of cream I’m use to, and also grainy. I think because the ingredients are wax and oils it also feels quiet heavy until its soaked into the skin. Pure Chimp have put a top tip of putting some cream in your hair to nourish and add shine. As a hairdresser , I would imagine this would make your hair greasy. I personally wouldn’t do this in general day to day life but as a treatment overnight ,I imagine that it would help. In fact if J ever let’s me have a minute to myself I will try this.
When I normally put creams on my eczema ,if anybody else suffers you will understand , it stings!. However the Super Cream doesn’t. This in itself is amazing because normally, I’m in a catch 22 of needing to use a cream but not wanting to. As the product is quite nourishing but runny you really do not need to use a lot . Also as it doesn’t soak into your skin quickly you do not have to reapply it a lot throughout the day.
I will definitely keep using the cream and update this post with a picture of my eczema in a few weeks. Even after one days use my skin doesn’t feel as dry, and there is definite visible improvement.
This is my eczema before I started using Super Cream
Pure Chimp also sell different products on their website.
The products are handmade in the UK .
Since writing this review i have received an email from Pure Chimp stating that a few batches are runnier than normal and to get in touch.
Nowadays it is very rare not to see a mobile phone glued to someone’s hand. Even then, if its not a mobile its a laptop or a tablet. Now don’t get me wrong, I do believe that children nowadays spend far to much time using technology. Hey you cant blame them, it is fantastic. I remember when i was in primary school we only had one computer next to the headmasters office. I’m only 24, so not that long ago really. Whereas nowadays its not a surprise to see a family out for a meal with their 3yr old playing on an Ipad, keeping them occupied. I always said i wouldn’t be one of those parents, but in all honesty I probably will let J play on them when i need a minute to myself. (but not at meal times.)
There is a point to this post, and this is that the internet is an amazing thing. Without the internet there would be no Facebook , and without Facebook we would all die!!!!. Ha ,no not really but without Facebook i would not have ‘met’ such a lovely group of ladies. Some people say that internet friends don’t count, but in all honesty I would say my internet friends are my true friends. I first ‘met’ my internet mummy friends (IMF) when i joined a Facebook group with other pregnant woman. It was actual a money saving baby group ,although I’m sure we are all a bad influence on each other buying things we ‘need’ BUY ALLDASLINGZ!!!!. We started talking about general baby/pregnancy topics, including all the not so glamorous pregnancy symptoms . We soon got to know each other though and now we talk about anything. I would say that they know more about me than my real life friends. Also without one very special mummy i would never have started this blog, i am so thankful for all the time and help she has given me.
When J was around 3months old we actually met up in a family friendly pub in Blackpool . Obviously not everyone could meet as we are scattered all over the country. I was so nervous but when i was pregnant i said to myself that i have to make an effort to get out more and make friends. I wasn’t up to going alone as the thought of driving to Blackpool on the motorway with a 3month old terrified me. My mum came with me. When we all met in person for the first time you wouldn’t have thought it . It was like we had know each other for ages. I know that others more south in the country have also met up and i believe they feel the same way.
When the babies were born we were all supportive of each other , those late night /early morning feeds can really take it out of you. You can start to feel so alone stuck in the robotic loop of feed,change,settle,sleep,feed . I was so grateful of the random chatting’s at 3am just to keep me company. We are a group of very different people, however none of us judge each other for any of our parenting decisions. Be that Breast feeding, Formula feeding. Feeding puree food or BLW. Pram lovers or babywearing . You get the point. Without them and my fantastic family i don’t believe i would have got through PND and got to the point i am at now. When i was feeling really low they sent me a surprise. It was a photo book of all the mummy’s and babies , with messages to me to help me feel more positive when i need it.
i just want to say a public Thank you to each and everyone of the Mummys
I know that I have mainly be writing about baby J, but i thought I would introduce you to the Me before baby J arrived. Don’t get me wrong I enjoy life now but I cant wait for J to be older so we can go on adventures and days out.
I wouldn’t say I was your typically girly girl. In all honesty I hate shopping, it just stresses me out as I never find anything I like. The only girly thing about me is that when I go out I do like dressing up (not that it happens often) and obviously considering I’m a hairdresser i do like that.
I use to be one of those ‘youths’, no not the chavvy ones hanging around on parks. The ones meeting up on car parks talking about cars. Yes i know what your thinking, but honestly it was harmless. I would rather that, than be a youth showing no respect and terrorising the neighbourhood.
This is Tango …. my first car
I also use to have a Honda CBR125 motorbike , however i cannot at this moment find a picture.
Another thing i use to do was Urbexing …. no that’s nothing dodgy , its basically exploring abandoned buildings (I told you,not a girly girl.) This is when I got into photography. Photography is another reason i have started to write this blog, i really miss having the time to go out exploring with my camera. I hope to be able to take more photos of J , without him trying to pinch the camera off me .
When we have moved and unpacked i will be able to find my external hard drive and upload some pictures.
My most recent hobby is off-roading. There was nothing more I loved than driving through a massive mud ditch or a swampy lake. We regularly use to go greenlaning or to off-road days.
Last week I was given the opportunity to create a personalised phone case using MrNutcase. I have always wanted a personalised phonecase, I just never got round to doing one so I jumped at the chance .
The website is very easy to navigate and simple to understand. Firstly you select your phone make and model,the website covers most makes and models of phones , Apple,Samsung,Blackberry and such-like. You then have two styles of cases to choose between Ultra light weight slimline case or an Executive flip leather style case. I chose the slimline case as I previously has a flip style case from elsewhere and found it annoying . On the website there is then an option to choose a collection case or create your own personalised case. I chose to create my own case as I wanted to use pictures of my son.
There are several templates to choose from depending on what layout you would like the photos. You also have the option to add text or clipart and change the background colour. Once you have designed your case you have the chance to view it before proceeding with the order. This is handy incase an important part of the photo has been cropped . The hardest part was choosing which photos to use.
I desgined and ordered the phone case on Thursday evening, it was shipped the next day and delivered on Saturday. Even for a none personalised item that is quick, so for it to be a personalised late evening order I was amazed.
The case arrived in a bubble wrapped parcel envelope and even had a free screen protector in it.
The printing quality of the cover is fantastic,even the small details. The photos dont wrap around the edges of the case as i thought it would, but once it is on the phone you cannot tell. Even though the case is slimline it still feels very sturdy. Infact i took it of my phone to take a photo and it didnt come off as easiley as i was expecting. However this is a good thing because you know it wont come unclipped if you drop your phone.
I would definitely reccomend MrNutcase for personalised phonecases, infact i have not stopped showing people mine since i have got it.
MrNutcase also makes cases for other products such as iPads and Tablets. Phone cases start from £14.95
**Disclaimer: I was given a code to order a phone case from Mr Nutcase website in return for a review. All opinions are my own and are unbiased.
Last week I went to Tescos to stock up on food for J. Im becoming more aware of how much ‘extras’ are in food. This has come from having to read all packaging to see if its dairy, soya and banana free. This resulted in one of the healthiest shops I have done. I was plesently surprised that it did not cost as much as i was expecting. This is normally one of the downfalls of having to shop dairy and soya free.
As you can see i managed to buy quiet a selection of food for J to try. (Not the green tea that was for me ). I bought Vitalite on the reccomendation from alot of people in a fantstic CMPA support group. I also bought some tinned cocunut milk from the world food isle. However i have no idea how to use it to cook with. Can you direct me to a easy recipe?
Amongst the items that I had picked up were Plum, Little Yums, Apple Spinach and Kale wafers. The more of the Plum products i buy the more i am liking them. (well J is)
I was expecting the items just to be loose in the box but they actually came in handy little packets containing three wafers . These are usefull to take out in lunch boxes.
J loved these and had fun eating them. They are actually not that messy as some finger foods can be. When I gave J these he actually sat still and ate them nicely. Which was a nice change as he is normally running around at 100 miles an hour to busy to even sit down to eat. The carpet can vouch for that after the whole pancake relay saga.
I will definetly be trying some other products of the Plum range, and seeing how J rates them. Are there any others you would reccomed?
THESE CONTAIN MILK!!!! After J came out in a reaction rash the other morning i read the individual packet ingredients list.
Im sure the box didnt say it contained milk, If anything it would have said ‘may contain’. I need to go back to the supermarket and check as I recycled the box.
As you can see I have found two seperate links on the products both saying differently.
I wanted to talk some more about car seats, following on from my last post. I’d like to think I have done quite a fair bit of car seat research, but mostly I wanted to warn people about being mis-sold incorrectly fitted car seats.
Having done all the research I could take, I made an appointment with a store local to me, who “specialise in car seat fitting, especially extended rear facing, stocking the latest models. Our staff are fully trained by Britax, Be Safe and Maxi Cosi. We offer impartial expert advice and would recommend an appointment for our rear facing seats.'”. Their details are featured on rearfacing.co.uk.
Great, I thought, they would be the perfect people to help me, I was especially after someone who was impartial and who had lots of choice. I had thought (and seen on the websites that the ERF seats I really…
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I created the #PNDChat hashtag to help bring together those affected by pre and postnatal depression. We are fast creating an amazing strong community of sufferers, survivors, professionals and charities.
Its can feel lonely place the land of PND until you knock on some doors and realise you aren’t alone at all, there as SO many others out there.
1 in 7 women will experience some form of pre and/or postnatal illness, so say your sat at a toddler group, beyond the smiles and the laughs, just how many of those women will have been where you might be now?
The land of PND doesn’t have to be a lonely place, it shouldn’t be. We need to come together as women, not just mothers and say ‘You know what im not hiding anymore!’
So please use the #PNDChat whenever tweeting about PND. You never know who you might meet, and…
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